September 01, 2006

Treat me well

I love doctors, I hate doctors. Like most of the junta around me, doctors too are rather terrified of me- and some with good cause to be so.

My intense love-hate relationship with doctors (as with many others in my life!) began only after I became a mother. Till then, I was quite in awe of doctors and let sleeping docs lie. I never provoked them, threw sticks at them or asked them to fetch for me. But of course, this meant that I did not bestow on them too much of mind space. It was a strict policy of non-interference. But since then I have crossed the (s)Hades to acquire the status of a Mom From Hell!

This week, my son got up in the middle of the night and was tossing and turning. The angel that he is, he never cries. But it is enough indication for me to know that there must something REALLY troubling him, for him to be up. 'What is it, Angel', I ask. 'My ear hurts.' Sure enough, I give him a mandated dose of paracetamol and try to soothe him back to sleep. Half an hour later, things seem to have only gone worse. I hate it but I know there is a bottle of this at the back of the medical cabinet which is brought out only at such emergencies. After the tiniest dose which may work, I try to soothe him back to sleep yet again. It is nearly morning before he finally falls in to a restful sleep pattern.

Later, the pilgrimage to the neighbourhood doctor. The usual long waiting; the exposure to all manner of stray infections concentrated there; the sight and sounds of all the others who are suffering and suffering badly, it seems; makes me feel it may have been better to stay at home than being in the clinic. The diagnosis indicates (oral, NOT written) that there could be an abscess in the ear which is painful and may have to be removed.

The hastily scrawled prescription lists among other medications, the same analgesic-anti-inflammatory as well as some ear-drops. Given ds's susceptibility to ear-trouble and prior acquaintance with that particular brand of ear-drops, I interject- Doesn't it contain Gentamycitin? Yes, it is a very good drug, I am informed. Highly effective in ear infections. But isn't Gentamicin highly ototoxic? I happen to know a number of children who are deaf because of that drug. That's all right; it IS a very effective drug !

With thoughts of Foucault's Birth of the Clinic (a refreshingly simplistic take on one who is a most difficult writer) and the prescient Ivan Illich's Medical Nemesis (and another doctor's take )

Iatrogenesis?

I love doctors, I love medicine, but most all, I love the kid.

21 comments:

Sujit said...

when going to doc... better close the book of knowledge.. otherwise we end up asking more question and suspect on the medicine!.

B.S. said...

I'm with you all the way, Shankari. Thank heavens you are so knowledgable, and it would be wonderful if all mothers could be more like you.

Hugs,
Betty

Shankari said...

Hi Sujit,

I was much like you, but being a mom really changed things for me- I can't suspend all these thoughts!


Betty,

Thanks for the support, it means much. But sweetie, it is such a pain too - wish one could have less knowledge and more trust, but this is ME :(

Anonymous said...

My sister is our in-house chemist. We are at the doctor's throat if he so much as opens his mouth to say "Nimesul..."

I know exactly how you feel. The long term effects of allopathy are so scary, it's not even funny.

Because of this blasted traffic and pollution, my bronchitis is going from chronic to "Ha ha ha! I've taken over your lungs!" I hate living in the city. I want to run away to the beach :((.

Hope your son's okay soon, Shankari.

Anonymous said...

He's lucky to have such an informed and caring mom!

chitra said...

Give a warm hug to the little angel from my side and wish him a speeeeedy recovery!!

LAK said...

Some doctors take your q's in good spirit, and some, I guess, resent it because they are not enlightened enough.

AfricaBleu said...

A careful, informed, smart mother --you are a bad doctor's worst nightmare, and a good doctor's best patient/caregiver.

Who cares if you make a bad doctor mad?

You go, girl.

Shankari said...

Hi Drift,

Thanks for drifting in! Nime.. gets mine goat too :(

Ganga,

Each kid and mom are paired aren't they? Much more perhaps than spouses can ever be, hmm? We're made for each other! :)

Chitra,

Did too! ((( )))

Lak,

Resent yes, but the more knowlegeable resent more. So it can't only be lack of 'enlightenment'.

Becky,

I make a lot of people mad! :p Thanks for being with me on this one here.

Hugs.

Jyotsna said...

Ditto with docs and me and i have learnt to trust my intuition now with doctors and with my kids..
I would say,I love doctors,I love alternative medicine but most of all yes..i love my kids :)
and yes i feel moms do know best..
hope your son is recovered fully now shankari.

reborn said...

:) nice post.gentamicin doesnt cause ototoxicity in all , and it depends on the damage inside. If the ear drum is inact , then the chances are very less... but i do understand ur concern as a mother ...it s natural .. still there are other drugs like ofloxacilin , ciproflox which are safer ..:) Hope ur little angel has rcovered now...

LAK said...

Ooh, I just wrote a long comment and it disappeared! Anyway, pl go to
http://lak-inprint.blogspot.com/2006/09/bus-stop-club.html
I wanted to share it with you.

Pragya said...

Ugh! Ear infections!! Seems my daughter gets one every month and I hate docs too!

Junius said...

me too loves kids, they are cho chweet :-)

Shankari said...

Ende, all kids cho chweet?

And all dogs adorable? And all cats cuddly? You must be really young - at least at heart! :-)

educatedunemployed said...

I am quite disappointed in the doctor.And really good on you for being informed.

However,it should come naturally to be skeptical about the treatments issued and one should feel free to ask any doctor what he is upto.There is always a rationale behind any treatment and I see no reason why a doctor should object to sharing his reasons.

chitra said...

Shankari,
just imagining at how you wd react to if the doctor ended up giving you the following instruction :"yeh peeli wali goli din mein theen bar, lal syrup ek khane ke baad, ek sone se pahale, hari wali shishi ............."

Junius said...

why 'you'? why not 'we'?

Shankari said...

Jyo, reborn, ed n un,

I need to reiterate that being a mother of a 'special child' does give the mum a crash course in some rudimentary awareness of whats to be given to the kid and whats not desirable.

My hardest battle, till date, was single-handedly convincing a team of specialists that I did NOT want TPN and that I would teach my child to feed orally. And, touch wood!

That would explain why I would never face the kind of situation you speak of, Chitra!

Ende, :D

Vivek Y. Kelkar said...

Relax. he'll be fine. is fine I am sure.
But do argue with docs. they're not the fount of all wisdom and are legally required to tell u the side effects. The judgement call is as much theirs as yours.

Shankari said...

Hi Traveller!

Good that I now have a Kelkar (not a committee though!) backing me on this.

I like the way you pop in here now and then! :)